“I just want you to love me”.
This is the cry at the deepest parts of so many people today, especially young ladies.
Even though, we know that the men often try to mask their need for love with other things, it is a legitimate need for every individual.
The need to love and to be loved.
A powerful emotion that is used, misused and overused today. Sadly, the more it is pursued, the more it eludes the one who chases it wrongly.
Vicky was a 2oyr old girl. She had spent 2 years out of secondary school and looked forward to the day when she would enter the university. The University presented itself as a place where all dreams come true.
It was where all those who enter were seen as “grownups”.
She couldn’t wait to finally become a big girl!
Then she met Brian. He was in 300 level and told her he loved her and had never seen anyone like her before. She was swept off her feet.
She felt wonderfully in love.
Aminat was a beautiful lady who worked as a customer representative in oneof the leading telecommunications companies. She was intelligent, smart, always well dressed and was excellent at her duties. She was in a relationship with Jide, dashing young banker for 3 years now and each time she wondered when the relationship would progress.
She didn’t feel the love between them and often tried to make up for it by going the extra mile for Jide. But it seemed all her efforts were futile. The calls were getting fewer and nothing she said was making the situation better.
The question remained, do you really love me?
Sometimes, some people, either men or women are swept away by the feeling of love itself and not a bonding with the individual. And when the euphoria wears off, they are left with the ashes of their desire. And it leaves a bitter taste in their mouths.
Love starts with you.
You cannot receive true love when you have not loved yourself. If deep down, you feel you are unworthy of love and attention, you would constantly attract the people who will further establish that notion.
Everyone is buzzing about Valentine, and someone somewhere is asking, “so I’m not special to anyone?” Why haven’t I received flowers or chocolates?
You don’t need anyone to tell you who you are.
You are special.
You are loved.
You are unique.
God says He has engraved you in the palm of His hands. Isaiah 49:16
If you were the only person on earth, Christ would still have died for you.
John 15:13 says Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
If you continue to be sorry for yourself, and wallow in self-pity, it means you declare the death of Christ as a waste. Not enough. Useless.
If you want to experience love, then look inwards.
Find out who you are, your strengths, weaknesses, flaws and feathers. Discover what God says about you and what your unique purpose here on earth is.
In my book I Am – A step-by-step guide to Boost Your Self Image And Self-Confidence, I stated that when you act kindly to someone, you feel great about yourself.
Don’t think of today as a day to receive. Think of it as a day to give.
What does love mean to you?
Be that definition to someone today. Not just today, tomorrow and always.
By doing that, you create a positive energy around yourself, you add value to another person and then you set yourself in the right frame of mind to receive love when it does come.
Besides, nothing stops you from taking yourself out and having a good time. Treat yourself nicely because you set the tone for others to follow.
What can you do today to show love to someone? What can you do to show love to yourself?
Don’t make a permanent decision on something as fleeting as Valentine Day.
You are God’s Masterpiece.
Like Raquel says, there’d be no end to Valentine Days.
Walk tall. Stand firm. Smile and be extra nice to yourself today.
I love you!