Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays is all you hear in the malls, on the streets, and on Facebook. and all you want to do
But all you want to do is pull your hair out and wail.
Not small whimpers and tears but really shout, scream and break something.
Or if you’re rather quiet, you just want to sit alone either in your room or on some quiet beach or mountainside and reflect deeply.
You don’t have anything to be merry about.
You have either lost a loved one in death or by their voluntary exit and this Christmas would be the first without that significant other or loved one.
It could also be that your promotion at work didn’t come rather you got a letter of termination. How on earth do you even begin to be joyful?
Guess what? Closed doors can be a blessing.
Sometime in the middle of 2014, I had just concluded my fabric arts training ready to hit the ground running. A recent graduate of a Fashion School, I was just finally getting into doing a business from home. Mixing fabric and accessories was a joy for me and I knew that once people got to know me, I’d have a long line of clients waiting for me.
My first outfit for myself was so beautiful that my husband made me wear it any time we went to visit folks so he could just say, “my wife made that”! I was also thrilled that finally, this was the missing link.
And then I discovered I was pregnant.
For those who have had a second baby come early, you know the feeling.
I battled feelings of depression of “why should this happen now” and guilt as I thought to myself, “how can you think like this when there are others who are looking for just one”.
As I struggled within myself to be brave amidst being sick, I visited my Ankara instructor and friend as she shared an exciting news.
She had gotten the job to design the costume/wardrobe for Hotel Majestic.
I was so thrilled for her. It was a welcome news.
And in the same breath, she mentioned that they had asked her to bring in someone to help her. She would have loved to submit my name but for the fact that I was pregnant.
I smiled and told her not to worry. It wasn’t for me.
As I went home, I reflected deeply. This would have been the big break that I desired. The opportunities to network with Nollywood celebrities, get more jobs, make some needed money for the family, etc I mean, do something exciting with my life.
But I couldn’t.
I recall saying strongly to my husband, “all things will work out for my good”!
At this point, I wasn’t ready to be moody or depressed over anything. I believed that God was in charge of my life and He would turn this around to favor me somehow.
A few days ago, I ran into her on my way back from the office.
We swap stories and I can say, God is good.
If I had gotten that job, I definitely won’t be here today. Writing. Blogging. Teaching.
My life would have become a vicious circle of movie locations and shootings. My family would have suffered because of the limited time available after work, etc. I don’t know if I’d have been fulfilled after the initial euphoria of Nollywood wears off.
So looking back, I thank God that THAT opportunity didn’t happen.
This could be anyone.Sometimes, we are so focused on a closed door that we fail to notice an open window/door up ahead. Click To Tweet
When things don’t work the way we expect, then we can be sure that God has a bigger plan for us or the timing isn’t right.
So yes, be merry for the closed doors ‘cos in them you’d find greater joys and peace.
Let me leave you with this verse,
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare
and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Rest in the assurance of God’s love.
I just wanted to share this story with someone. Please do the same and share too. You never can tell who will be blessed by this.